Lunes, Hunyo 18, 2012

10 Macho Dancers I Met in Cebu - 5. Daddy

Pop Quiz:  How many Cebu Macho Dancers that you know celebrated Father's Day last Sunday?  If your answer is 0.  Tsk Tsk Tsk.  Guess again.


Maybe it is career-ending if customers know that an MD has kids or a family.  Which is why this information is kept a secret.  Not talking about advertising about the MD kids, but simply admitting to it when confronted.

Let's call him Allen.  He was on his late 20's when I first met him.  Dark-skinned and on the twink side. For some reason he looks closer to 21 than to his real age of 28.  A friend told me that people are suspecting that Allen has a kid.  Initially, I asked him about it which he denied, and I believed him.  He said people are making up stories about him because of his troubles with the other bar.

Not even 6 months after, I chanced upon him at a drug-store-cum-grocery near Ibabao.  He was buying infant milk!  I did not confront him.  I actually have never confronted him ever since we parted ways.  I had a strange feeling that the rumors are true.  My connections with transportation office and the statistics office confirmed that not only Allen is already a father, but is married with 3 kids, including (then) 7-month old daughter.

More than hurt or anger, I felt guilt and sadness.  Somebody had to lie to make a living.  And I thought to myself, are we damaging his kid's life by what we are doing?  Or are we actually helping his growing family, by supporting him?

I would have never known the answer to either of those 2 questions.  But what I know, is that there are so many Allen's in the Cebu MD community.  Fathers in hiding for fear that they would lose customers if they knew.  Incidentally, from our Top 5 Fave Cebu Macho Dancers, more than 2 are already daddy's, including one very recently =).  



Gay Bar --> Entertainment Bar

Not sure if you've heard but a number of Cebu Gay Bars have recently rebranded.  They are now either hosto bars or male entertainment bars.

Godfather in Mandaue (beside Parkmall) is a hosto bar.  Zeus Bar and NaughtyKa! Bar have both rebranded as Male Entertainment Bars.  Also recently, Tarzan Boys would not allow male only visitors, that means males or gays without female company will be allowed inside.

This is a big move on the part of these establishments explicitly stating who their target audience is.  With the emergence of Korean women clientele and the regular local female clients, we are seeing a shift on the male entertainment business.

This leaves Navigator and CheetahBar as all-welcoming entertainment bars.  Will they follow suit?  We will see.

Lunes, Hunyo 11, 2012

Bias against women

It is very common in the Philippines to see an elderly man together with a younger female.  In Cebu, that is even more evident.  It is very common that it does not feel odd to look at them.  It has become prevalent in Cebu malls and coffee shops that the couple do not even merit a second look.

The other way around is unfortunately still not the case.  Matured women seen together with younger men are still given the second look, third look and even the stare.  Regardless of whether they are seen in Manila, Davao, Ilocos even here in more accepting Cebu.

Judgmental stares, malicious whispers or sly laughters.  Life is unfair.